20, 30, 40

"At the age of 20, we don't care what the world thinks of us; 
at 30, we worry about what it is thinking of us; 
at 40, we discover that it wasn't thinking of us at all."

Anonymous

A friend of mine had this kind of idea where he listed down 21 things to remember to celebrate his 21st birthday.

I used to have similar thought to make my 21st a memorable one; but had it in different way, that is to try out 21 different ways of celebration with my friend. 

While we are still celebrating and counting. 

I think it would also be good to list down some significant life lessons

1. Live, Learn, Love

Have the ability and flexibility to adapt and survive in each situation, learn from the life lesson, get wisdom and start giving love to those who needs

Giving is blessing, don't stop giving until you lose the ability to do so

2. Routine is a big thing, keep it healthy

Routine is something that we spend more than half of our time doing, and it's where achievement and success happens

Set a desirable outcome, have an objective and work for it

3. Enjoyment is another big thing, KISS it

It is something that regards as fun and inspiring, and it's always been eagerly looking and waiting for

Overdo will only lead to perversion. Balance it, then we can find contentment

* KISS = keep it short and sweet

4. YOU and the problem of YOUR life

No one has the responsibility to take care of our feeling and emotions all the time; not even our parents or life partner

Always take a good care of ourselves and being responsible for our own problems

5. If you're afraid of losing, which means there is still something for you to lose

If something threaten makes us having no reasons to move on, then we will stuck at the miserable situation, forever

Losing something important? Make sure we get it back next time. Trust me, Karma did works

6.   Stubborn and determination are both different thing

Stubborn is to blindly follow something that we think we like regardless of what is right or wrong

Determination is to be very clear of our objective so that we can work hard to reach the desirable outcome

Let go when we have to; but never give up hope

7. Accept everything that happens

A success that happens: Cherish the glory moment, accept compliment from others humbly and thanks God for the blessing;

A failure that happens: Face it, accept the reality and learn from the lesson without pointing the blame on anyone

Anything happens for a reason. A success person will only see it as an opportunity

8. Don't depends your life on others

No one is responsible for our life except our own. If we are not taking care of ourselves then no one will

Stop taking for granted and stop fooling ourselves that someone can do everything for us

Sharing a world with others, we can help each other but not to fully rely on anyone

9. Be clear of your objective and purpose of doing things

Human is born greedy, not satisfy with life and always complaining

Always be clear with the objective and purpose of doing something

So that we can learn how to take things easily

10. Have expectation in yourself. Rate your own performance; not base on the rating from theirs'

We know who we are and what our level is; others can't be bothered to know how much we have been through

Ratings from them can somehow be biased according to their own preferences

Know ourselves, learn from the lesson and move forward

11. if it's your', it will be yours'

Want something? Work for it. Not able to get it? Then forget it

The result isn't important, neither the process

It is the lesson for us to figure out which one suits us more and how to handle it when the next time comes

12. Have no excuse for yourself and always forgive others

Perfection is not to give any excuse for the mistake we did; but to give any reason for others' mistake

Their life is theirs, understand the differences and forgive as we could; our life is us, only us knowing how to bring the best out of ourselves

13. Information is selective, judgment is biased

We can't stop people from saying what they want to say; but we can filter and select the important and correct message they try to deliver

Same goes to people in getting what we try to tell. It is a human nature to select what is considered important to them

14. If we are to get angry, there should be a reason behind it. And the reason, should always be acceptable by others

Misunderstanding happens between two or more parties,
the one that get angry, pissed, or cry doesn't mean they are the only victim

A quarrel can only be stop when both parties reach their consensus

15. Stop the drama, goes with flows

Life is full with ups and downs; try not to overreact on success or failure,

because we will either be labeled as someone that showing off or we're just another pessimist

People prefer laughing at our failure than to celebrate our success. So why let them having the chance to do that on us?

16.  Mistake happens once, may due to the external reason; mistake repeated, it is the internal thing that should be changed

Something undesirable or unexpected happen, it may due to the external reason such as luck, people or situation influences

But once the same one keep repeated, it may be something inside us that having the problem

Figure it out, and work for it

17. Don't enforce your value on others. No one should have the same as yours

People like to influence or change others to have the same mindset as theirs,

and they always judge others based on their preferences

Don't simply judge and expect anyone to change for you. It ain't fair

18. Be nice and sincere to people doesn't mean we have to treat them with full heart. Be clear of the safe boundaries

Regardless how we are excited over things or passion towards people

Everyone has their safe boundaries and comfort zone of interacting with strangers or normal friends

Try not to cross the line, live in harmony

19. Respect, is the least we can give towards a broken relationship

If something has already reach a stage where nothing can be fixed

aside the effort to eliminate any misunderstanding

respect the decision by other party is also a kind of self respect

20. Everyone is beautiful and unique in their own ways

Everyone is unique. We all come in a full set

If you know someone well enough, their weakness can somehow be balanced by their strength

See the beauty in it and appreciate the differences, we will find the world as cute and beautiful as it is

21. Everyone's life is destined. It's just how you make the best out of it

We all come in a full set, and our faith is somehow destined

No use to work over the things that are not belong to us

Discover our strength and go with the flow. Life will be easier