how much did we actually paid for a lesson learnt?

How expensive have you ever paid for a lesson to learn?
How much one can posses, is exactly how much one can lose

According to my zordiac, this year will be a very tough year for me;
and in fact, life has already treated me hard enough for the past few months

Most of the unpleasant incidents that happened were highly related to money matter;
the most threatening is, it did not only cause a teeny weeny amount but a hell lot!

With all the alarming incidents,
I  have this urge to do some serious reflection so to figure out something that can help with my situation

At the meantime, I discover that:

When we find ourselves afraid of losing, means we have something to lose
The more we EARN; the more it is possibly to LOSE


I have few friends with me that has their very unique spending style,
which I would like to share with you over here

Friend A:
Basic salary:    average
Benefits:    can claim OT
Working hour: Long
Accumulated figure:     high
Financial support: extra from parents
 Spending style: Has budget, with financial supports from parents.
Therefore, she has no restriction buying anything she wants. Spend quite much.

Friend B:
Basic salary:    low
Benefits:    work near home (eat, transport, petro, socializing cost - almost none)
Working hour:    super long
Accumulated figure:    low
Financial support:    family
Spending style: Buy branded stuffs that has extremely exceed what she can earned. She claimed that she was  too stressed and has no other entertainment, therefore, through buying she can seem to balance up the hard work she has putted in for her work

     Friend C:
Basic salary:   high
Benefits:    family business (eat, transport, petro, - almost none)
Working hour: Super long
Accumulated figure:     high
Financial support: no
 Spending style: Has no break in the weekend & holiday, thus not much time and energy to spend money.
Committed and spend big money investing on feng shui, taking care of her health and insurance; sometime buy branded stuffs

Me: 
Basic salary:   average
Benefits:    family support (eat, transport, petro, - none)
Working hour: short
Accumulated figure:    average
Financial support: family
 Spending style: Save half of my salary; buy branded but not often. Surveyed as I could and buy only the best one I think it is (if shopping with friends, salesman gonna hate me the most caz i always ask a lot but has lowest percentage of buying it HAHA).

I used to be rational consumer and always try to be;
until recently the influences among my friends and I become uncontrollably powerful

LESSON LEARNT:  Personal Belongingness 

A day after Christmas; and a day before I started my job,

I lost my phone.

Not so long ago, I buy myself a new phone;

but it charged me a bomb, despite how acceptable or unacceptable the charges is

Losing an old one is truly a heartache;

yet buying a new one is not as excited as it expected to be.
When we started to work, we started to earn a living.
Richness should not be judged according to the amount we earned; but how we manage our money

My friend had directly and indirectly influence me to buy something that cost big money
and one thing I realized:
we should not buy something because we have the budget to do so;
but simply refer to how necessarily it is to our life

LESSON LEARNT: Friendship

I am so glad that I had more than one gang of very close friends;

but now that they made me realized that,

no matter how trust-able they are; I can't bet my life on them,

caz they have no responsibility to take care of my life as theirs'. 

Close friends especially girls close friends have a lot of sharing and brainwashing among themselves

we so often share real life stories, opinion, and gossiping when we're together

at the same time, influences among us spread like a disaster,
it should be all stopped before it's getting worse

we spent money irrationally, we compete between one another for all the branded stuffs,
 and even judging how much the gifts we received from people around us.
We're all gone oh so materialism which we have lose all sense of money management
tell me, my dear friends. Do you really enjoy spending irrationally?

Before we get influenced and being manipulated so easily;
please always be reminded that we are and will be the only one to bear with all the consequences.
Are we still naively thinking that our friends will be that helpful to help us solving the problem as how 'helpful' they used to influence us?  no!

LESSON LEARNT: The more I talk about it, the bad it will be

"I had this thing that I talk too much
sometimes I just can't shut the hell up
It's like I need to tell someone, anyone who'll listen
and that's where I seem to fuck up"


"yeah, I forget about the consequences
for a minute there I lose my senses
and in the heat of the moment my mouth starts going
the words start flowing, oh"

Lyric: Nobody's Perfect by Jessie J

I should urge myself to change the way I talk,

something has just gone all wrong.

I am too much emphasized on the good thing I had;

while I am so cautious not to over share the information that is regards as not so pleasant

For all I knew that my friends will not like to hear everything that good about me;

it is boring, it has no big deal on them, they will lost their interest to feel happy for me all the time.

On the other hand, I should also learn to handle news that come under my expectation;
caz i have to know that: "there is nothing impossible to be lost; and there is nothing a must to be possessed"

In the year of 2012,
I should always take note that SIMPLICITY is everything,
I should not go hu-ha for anything big; and try not to have fancy expectation on my life

In the year of 2012,
If something good happens, be quietly happy for that and appreciate it;
If something bad hitting, remember not hold it too tight with me until it affect some other good things to come

So, why are we making life so difficult?

photo credits to https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10150387943119702&set=p.10150387943119702&type=1&ref=nf

Career part 1: Delayed gratification

One day after Christmas, I lost my phone in a shopping mall

and here started the journey of my working life

All this while, 

I've been looking forward to live with my dream,

I would love if I can try any job that I feel like trying;

but it was a lot of obstacles and boundaries set by my mum

She wouldn't want me to work very far from home; 

She wouldn't allow me to work something that requires qualification below Degree graduates level;

She wouldn't like me to work for shift

Therefore my choice is really limited.

In a few months time, I only apply for:
(i) customer service at HSBC

(ii) Early Childhood teacher at REALKIDS;

(iii) Teaching assistant at Nexus International School; and

(iv) Sales & Planning Executive at Toshiba

4 months before, I've been hired by REALKIDS on the date I went for interview; unfortunately my mum wanted me to reject the offer due to the far distance

4 months later, I was desperately needing a job; and my mum had finally agreed me returning to them for a job

Thank goodness they still welcome me even I rejected them long ago

Few weeks after I started the job, Toshiba started to reply and offered me the position I've been applying for

The salary and remuneration are of course more promising than my current job

but then I rejected the offers from the reputed company

Although my current company cannot offer me good payment; but I am staying for my future

The company provides us a series of training and strongly encourage us to go for further studies,

They wouldn't mind to cover the training fees for us; they gave us the priority to attend training during working hours.

The GM is wise and far sighted, he had expanded his business to China decade ago; 

The staffs have been so generous to share any information and knowledge to us, regardless how committed we are to the company.

The company has given us variety of choices to plan for our own career pathway,

They have the reporting system for us to rate ourselves, as well as for them to evaluate on our progression.

Although, the start of my current job wasn't as pleasing as I expected it to

I lost my phone one day before I started working;

I couldn't get my own car as what my parents had promised me;

the salary and remuneration are not that promising
and maybe the good points I mentioned above are just same as what other companies can offer 

But I'm still willing to give it a try, maybe I was fated for this challenge 

I believe that: with all my patient and positive thinking, my day will come

and I do believe that one day, I would say this to myself:

I NEVER REGRET ACCEPTING THIS JOB AND NEVER REGRET REJECTING OTHERS

for now, I still couldn't determine whether this is a EARN or a LOSS
but I am so glad that I can have this chance to actually experience and learn Delayed Gratification 

I will no longer asking and wanting everything to fall into places perfectly as I want it to;
but with all the opportunity given, I am here trying my best

*Work hard and pray hard for my day to come*